Whether in employment or education, there is often a pressure to strive to be the best. And for some people, aiming for the top is what drives them; whereas for others, ’doing your best’ is satisfying enough, without feeling the need to be perfect.

Sometimes we are pushed by others to reach a certain attainment or to meet their expectations. Other times it is a self-imposed demand to reach a particular goal.

In education, there is often a need to perform well and achieve high standards. School grades are important, but sometimes children can feel pressure to be ‘straight A’ students.

Setting targets that are personal to individuals

Children should be encouraged to try things beyond their capabilities, even if they find it a struggle, as that is a way to learn and grow – both academically and as a person. But also, teachers should be aware of individual differences and set targets for students for a level of attainment personal to them. Children should be rewarded for improvement and not just high grades.

In the employment world, some jobs focus on encouraging employees to climb the career ladder. Some employees may want a promotion and a higher salary, but others are happy with the level of responsibility in their current position.

In the workplace, it is good to set your own targets – know where you’re at and where you want to progress to. This could include continual professional development and training, or improving your interpersonal skills.

In reality, perfection is an unattainable goal, so practice makes improvement. We can always be better and do better.

Some people like to aim high and “shoot for the moon…” – but remember there is no such thing as perfect – “…even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars”.

For others, there’s no need to be 100% flawless – it involves too much stress, and life is more about exploration – enjoying the journey, not just the outcome.

Don’t compete with anyone else

So set targets by your own standards and focus on being the best you can be. You don’t have to compete with anyone else or aspire to some unrealistic ideal; instead, compare yourself with who you were yesterday – are you growing as a person?

Progress often takes time and patience, so as you push yourself to grow, remember also to be kind to yourself, whatever your endeavour!
As the great philosopher Plato once said, “Never discourage anyone who continually makes progress, no matter how slow”. Celebrate every success, no matter how small or trivial, and remember to take stock every now again and look back on how far you’ve come.